How should I respond if a child discloses abuse to me?
Remain calm and listen to the child.
Reassure the child....
Say...
"I believe you."
"You did the right thing by telling me."
"It's not your fault."
Questions you SHOULD ask include:
Get the basic details of the abuse, but don't ask too many in-depth questions - the child may later be involved in a forensic interview and it is best to leave those details for the professional investigative team to discuss with the child.
What happened? (a basic overview of the abuse)
Who did it?
When did it happen?
Where did it happen?
Make sure to ask open ended questions.
Make sure the child is safe and not in contact with the alleged abuser.
Immediately contact the Department of Child Services or your local law enforcement agency.
What SHOULDN’T I do if a child discloses abuse to me?
Do not react with panic, anger or other strong emotions.
Do not ask too many detailed questions about the abuse.
Do not challenge or act like you don’t believe the child.
Do not conduct your own investigation or attempt to confirm the child’s report.
Do not keep it to yourself – you are legally required to report suspected abuse.
Do not ask the child to repeat the disclosure to other family members or friends – the child should next speak only with members of a professional investigative team.
Do not lie or make promises about what may or may not happen next.
What information will I need to provide to DCS or law enforcement?
If possible, gather the following information:
Child information
Parent / Guardian information
Alleged perpetrator information
Type of suspected abuse
Even if you feel you do not have enough information, you can and should still call to make a report. It is the responsibility of the Department of Child Services and/or law enforcement to determine if there is enough information to substantiate a report. If you suspect any type of abuse, please make a report.